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  1. 3 points
    Looking over the images of your boots, and trying to be as analytical and dispassionate as possible, I honestly can't see why they could be construed as feminine other than via, as I have said before, the blinkered response that tall boots must be feminine - just because. The slender shafts do not strike me as intrinsically feminine, just decently fitting. I believe we noted in another thread that most tall boots (nearly all of which are found on the distaff side of the shop) have rather large calves/shafts. It could therefore be argued that ones with bigger, looser shafts are feminine by virtue of their numerical superiority. The toes are pointy and the foot shape elongated, but there again not intrinsically feminine. As they say about pointy toed (masculine) cowboy boots in Texas: "They're for killing cockroaches in the corners." Nor are the heels too tall for cowboy boots. Worn under jeans there is no way on earth anybody would notice them. Worn over jeans, yes, they'd be noticed but only because hardly any guys wear their boots that way (because hardly any guys dare wear tall boots - however much they may like the idea) I agree with Puffer - that is the only unusual aspect to them: wearing over jeans. But why not? They are nice looking boots. I recall wearing a pair of very tall 16" L.L. Bean duck boots (mentioned in another thread) when I was in Antarctica. Some of the women on the ship marvelled that I did not wear them over my jeans when we made landings, to show them off. In that particular instance it was wisest not to! Zodiac landings in Antarctica can be quite wet and having trousers over your boot tops is a great idea, if you don't want to get water in your boots. They women on board soon joined me in the male style of wearing boots under trousers! Outside of that though - I think tall boots look best over jeans. I am not into leggings myself, other than for cycling, but boots and jeans seen a decent look! I agree too that one regularly sees guys wearing all kinds of (to me) objectionable get-ups - tattoos, piercings, baggy trousers with the crotch down to the knees, ludicrous board shorts, hoodies, and ludicrous hair styles with nobody giving them a second glance. Yet wearing a nice tall pair of boots (regardless of whetheror not they had heels) over jeans would raise eyebrows and call into question your masculinity. What a weird and up-tight world.
  2. 2 points
    Not quite the right description
  3. 2 points
    Just have your wife to take som pics of you wearing heels and dont check her facebook albums...! Yesterday I checked my wifes facebook photoalbums...and I found a picture of myself wearing my 5" heeled boots... JIPPI!!!.. I think.. Anyone have a good explanation I can use if anyone ask WHY?
  4. 2 points
    Re wide band, I got these from Ebay a few months ago, and they are extremely comfortable, and my foot is nicely balanced in them with good weight distribution between sole and heel. I'm sure the second strap is the reason. With just the toe strap my feet would slip down and they'd be very uncomfortable.
  5. 2 points
    When the two closest members of our family visit, I have to be a bit careful about what shoes I leave lying around. I don't always find every pair, but so far, no-one has asked any potentially awkward questions .... It's even worse when the grandson stays, because like most young people, he wants to know everything about everything... Not only do all my shoes/boots have to be hidden, some stacks have to be disguised too. It's a PITA. Today, we three went to London to take a look at the Christmas lights in the West End. It might have been 'four of us' but his mum had things to do at home. I had already decided I would wear my very passable cowboy boots. They have a 4 inch heel, fairly slim shaft, and come up to just under my knee. There is decorative stitching over the toe box, and they are a bit 'pointy'. They look like a mans boot, right up until you see how high and slim the shaft is. While preparing to go out, I walked past everyone several times wearing the boots. This afternoon/evening, I spent 5 hours walking around with my grandson and Mrs Freddy. So far, not a single comment. I'm hoping there might be some remark, to draw out any feelings about them (good or bad) but I wouldn't be surprised if no-one noticed or dismissed my choice of footwear as "me being me". (ie. Eccentric.) I'm not expecting to be judged, nor do I want to encourage false enthusiasm, but it would be nice if I didn't feel so compelled to 'hide' my interest from those so close to me. I'm probably not alone with that sentiment?
  6. 2 points
    I know I've become less and less worried about what people think, but that is an almighty hurdle for most of us. My wish to do just whatever I want is tempered with a desire not to embarrass or harm anyone close to me. My wife has known about my love for heels for most of our married life, but until a couple of years ago I hardly ever ventured out in public wearing them. She will now come out with me when I'm wearing block heeled boots or wedges, and I know I'm very very fortunate in this. However, I believe the biggest problem with most of us is the six inches between the ears. We're worried that everyone is staring at us and laughing at us, and terrified of meeting someone we know. One of my wife's friends and a couple of others in the same business as me know about my heels and are completely OK with it. I went on the train to a company conference last Saturday in 4.5 inch wedges under a business suit. Seven hours in the train and walking between trains, seven hours at the conference with over 5,000 people present. Loads of people must have seen them, but I got not one comment, not one sign of amusement or disgust, apart from a giggle I heard from a teenager behind me, but even then it might not have been at seeing my heels. My reason for wearing them, if anyone asks, is that they are a miraculous cure for backache. My back aches if I stand or walk around for more than a few minutes, but heels are an instant cure. I'm not the only one who finds this, as this article shows: http://home.bt.com/lifestyle/four-inch-heels-cure-mans-bad-back-now-he-cant-stop-wearing-them-for-charity-11363970352666 The fact that I absolutely adore wearing them is another matter... Anyway, that's me. I have about two dozen pairs of heels, from two inch cowboy boots to 7.5 inch stilettos, but recently I've been more and more interested in street heels of at least four inches.
  7. 2 points
    Yes indeed, Freddy Yes indeed to all of that, Freddy. And I could add a few others: Gene Tierney; Grace Kelly; Liz Taylor (when young - as in Ivanhoe). There just seems to be something special about these 40s/50s stars; certainly they looked glamorous and dressed accordingly.
  8. 2 points
    I have already mentioned I hate flying, but love airports, and you have confirmed why. It's not true of Camden Market any longer, but UK airports (as Camden used to be) places where; if you were going to see someone with two heads THAT'S where you will see it. The throughput of diverse people is staggering. I have experienced similar at Waterloo, Liverpool Street and King Cross rail stations, but airports produce the most glamorous opportunities. As for people watching.... I would have a holiday for two reasons; Swimming in clear water. Spending the evening after dinner, sitting in a street café watching people walk past. In our hotel, other guest would get nicknames or titles. For entertainment, I would weave imaginary tales and lifestyles to each group we saw.
  9. 2 points
    Good luck, Freddy, if you go - whatever you wear. I'm not a Philistine, nor unduly tight-fisted (unless you ask my wife!) but I am totally unwilling to go to any sort of live performance (theatre, ballet, opera, concert, stage show or whatever) that costs more than, say, £20 for the seat - and not even then if the cost of travel etc is significant. I simply don't enjoy something of that sort enough to justify making a big dent in my pocket - as with luxury hotels or holidays and the like. More to the point, on the last few occasions I have been tempted by (or treated to) such an event, the aggravation of getting to the venue, being ripped off for any extras and finding a poor seat/view and mediocre performance has made the whole event less than worthwhile - I would have been better-off (in all senses) to watch it on the TV! That said, I do enjoy live theatre at one or two of the small provincial places which are easy to access and have a sensible price structure. And, if going alone, I am likely to emulate you and Shyheels and dress to suit my mood without making a fool of myself.
  10. 2 points
    If you recognise this person....... (Prince William's wife, the Duchess of Cambridge) The following might surprise you .... Full article >> here <<
  11. 2 points
    All true,. But let's face it,. Given the chance, We'd all drill her until we struck oil !!!
  12. 2 points
    I think the Fates are having fun with you. To round it out perfectly let's imagine she is a size seven but the damned fools at Zara sent her an eight, which she is having trouble walking in but she likes them too much to send back...
  13. 2 points
    Firstly, to address your highly refined sense of pedantry, surely "or what?" invited an interpretation rather than offered one? With that now established with the good grace you often provide, I'd like to think the charming Shyheels was quite correct when he chose "the latter" of the three stated interpretations you had helpfully suggested. Taking his wise guidance (only a fool wouldn't), I gave his choice my full support. On reflection, and now with some further guidance on the matter from your good self, I would possibly encompass a group not specifically offered but might fall into the "or what?" camp. I am tempted to label them; "Theatricals". Some having wrists good enough for all sorts of DIY skills and legs strong enough for cycling. Others, possibly more interested in homely, more sensitive pursuits perhaps? I would agree wholeheartedly with the notion that ANY attire that was created with the concept a women would be the wearer, but a man chose to wear it as well, might label the him a cross-dresser. (I'm very sorry for the shocking grammar.) But being a great believer for equal opportunity across gender, the same could be said for almost every Western woman at some stage during her life. Though a cross-dressing woman is undeniably an oxymoron, if I can dare to use such a sophisticated word? I can't think of any attire that has been made, that a woman could wear and it not be socially acceptable, at least in Western culture. Does rather seem to be something of a one-way street, so to speak. We are all doing our bit to change that, of course. Frontiersmen, everyone one of us.
  14. 2 points
    Germans have certainly been big with computers into cars! They are reaping a pretty unpleasant harvest now, thanks to some of their more imaginative uses of software for diesel engines - or at least VW certainly is! Have you ever read an essay called "Farewell to Model T" by E.B. White? A dazzling essay - he was one of The New Yorker's greatest ever writers and a stylist par excellence. He was writing (quite a few years ago, obviously) about the changes that were becoming noticeable even then in making it harder and harder for people to maintain and repair their own automobiles, and lamenting this drive to greater and greater complexity, seemingly for complexity's sake. It's a great essay, available in a slender hardback. He was, by the way, also the author of Charlotte's Web and one of the greatest ever little guidebooks on writing - Elements of Style. To say nothing of many brilliant articles in The New Yorker.
  15. 2 points
    Your assumption was a fair one. I used to smoke a pipe but gave it up more than six years ago. I will still have a small cigar perhaps five times a year. I think the nom-de-plume originated at work in the late 60s when it was applied as a nickname to recognise both my pipe-smoking and my known interest in railways, but the exact circumstances are now lost in the mists (smoke?) of time. I do recall that, in that same workplace, my aromatic pipe smoke caused a colleague to enquire 'What is that you're smoking?'. I was busy adding up a column of figures and dismissed him with a rather curt 'That's my business' - to which he immediately responded 'Well, it certainly smells like it!'. Happy days ...
  16. 2 points
    I too am a light drinker. Apart from disliking inebriation and having a reduced tolerance to alcohol (probably following hepatitis some 40 years ago), I simply don't like the taste of many drinks, especially spirits such as whisky! I do like semi-sweet vermouth (ideally Cinzano Bianco with lemonade, but Dubonnet is OK too) but cannot stomach Campari - although it is good for cleaning paint brushes, or drains! I occasionally drink white-rum-and-cola and some fruity liqueurs. But my daily tipple, if I have one at all, is likely to be a cider (particularly pear), a stout or porter (especially the newish Guinness Dublin Porter), or a lager (with curry or oriental food). I will drink wine with a meal but not much as a purely social drink. I have never liked gin and tonic (far too bitter) but am tempted to try the sloe gin you mention. My intolerance of alcohol does not encourage social drinking as I can rarely keep up with others and, to be frank, I have better things to do with my pocket money than buy them (or even me) excess booze. I don't really like pubs for this reason; drinking at home is more comfortable and certainly cheaper. Some years ago, on a canal holiday with a group of friends (including children), it was quite common for us to stop at a canalside pub - rather too frequently in fact. On one occasion, the pub garden (the usual venue, because of the kids) was too crowded with noisy yokels so, drinks bought inside, we all repaired to the boat and sat on it to consume them. What a waste of money (especially for the kids' soft drinks) - we had our own booze on board and got absolutely nothing extra by paying pub prices (except for the bad language emanating from its garden patrons).
  17. 2 points
    Just as I thought I could take it easy (apart from fixing a minor leak under younger son's sink) and confine myself to further armchair pontification on Freddy's current 'buggers muddle', my good friend with some buy-to-lets has asked for my hands-on input to install (with his help) a complete gas CH system at one of his flats. Probably 5 days' work starting around 2 Nov. I am happy enough to oblige - I owe him about 10 days after all he did to help me with my seaside flat refurb - but a rest would have been nice! (As he owns 'flats', I won't be working there in 'heels'.) As to bicycles, I well remember apologising to my elder son (then aged about 10 and a keen footballer) that I had no interest or ability whatsoever in sport, so could not help him thus. He smiled at me and said, touchingly, 'No - but you can mend my bike, Dad!' Our respective roles have remained much the same, some 25 years on.
  18. 2 points
    Actually the feminine traditions for boots do not even go back that far. Since I permitted myself to indulge in this I have done a bit of research on the topic of fashion, footwear, men in heels and boots. It's a very interesting story really. As to boots - the fashion I feel that I am (or was) missing out on, that dates back only 50 years or so to some designers in the early 1960s going for a masculine Three Musketeers look for their lines and using cuissards to round out the look. Add Nancy Sinatra's hit song Boots in 1966 and there it was. And as we know, once a thing has gone feminine, it never really comes back. I would wear my suede boots out in public, over heads, without a second's hesitation but I do not live in a vacuum. My wife is extremely tolerant but I want to be very careful not to embarrass her in any way. For now, that might do it. I decided to buy and wear these only last year. At any rate I am fortunate enough to work from home, except when I am travelling, and so OTK boots are de rigueur in my office (my official dress code) and the places I travel to for work are not places one would wear nice suede boots anyway. So in truth I miss out only on wearing them to Tescos. A very happy compromise. But, as I say, were I on my own, they would certainly be worn out to do the shopping! I have not the least shame or embarrassment in owning or wearing them.
  19. 2 points
    Interesting thoughts about leg length and shoe size, Freddy. I think it quite logical that feet are (or normally are) in proportion to build and height, but not so sure that putting on weight will necessarily result in 'fatter' feet, aside from some possible temporary bloating through water retention. Foot size (and height) do tend to shink a little with age, but I guess that foot size does not effectively reduce because stiffness, bunions and other ailments will tend to make feet less flexible and therefore more needful of a comfy/roomy shoe (as most wives, at least, demonstrate). I think you have forgotten that I do have a pair of custom-made 'Miguel Jones' boots from Mexico - pictures posted previously. They cost about £110 shipped and fit very well. They are comfortable enough to wear (given the 5" heel) but my slightly bow-legged gait does not help. Under longish bootcut trousers they are quite discreet (although the long pointed toes are very apparent - which doesn't bother me) but they really deserve to be shown-off under normal length fairly narrow straight jeans - which would doubtless frighten any foreign woman, inquisitive child or horse within spotting range. One day, I might have the courage ... Last Thursday, whilst in another town, I saw a women walking around whose look was one I wish men could aspire to with impunity. She was tall and of medium build (which meant she was of an overall size/outline comparable to many mid-sized men) and wearing a longish black jacket, wide-legged trousers and fully-visible black suede ankle boots with a straight heel about 4" high. She looked very smart-casual and comfortable and I really wished I could have been 'in her body'. The boots were the most obviously feminine thing she wore but seemed to me to be eminently suitable for a man as part of a comparable overall look - if only the (perceived) barrier to male heel wearing did not exist. And I already have rather similar boots:
  20. 2 points
    Acceptance is respecting others' opinions and choises. And in relationship respect is one of the fundamentals one should build up. You can argue and have different views of things, but as long as both have respect on each other, things will work out. My wife, well yes, she is something very special. She have never said a single word against my heel wearing. She is always very supportive, no matter where we are going or whom ever we are going to meet, she always encourages me to put heels on if I like. We love each other, we respect each other and we are honest to each other. We do have argues and we don't agree on every aspect of everything, but we still respect each others views. I told her day one when we met that I have thing for women shoes and I wear them as well, and that is something that I can't change or I can't hide, it is part of me and it won't go away even if I would like to (which I don't, also said that). And she didn't blink an eye, just said with a warm grin on her face, 'then show me you shoes man, impress me', and here we are
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  22. 2 points
    I am comfortable with me wearing heels in public, but not everyone else is. I don't mind if anyone looking at me thinks I gay. Being 'off the norm' doesn't automatically make you a bad person, or an undesirable. I try to be me, and I try to please people around me. [sometimes, too hard.] It's unfortunate most men, and a fair number of women, prefer their men friends to conform...... When I'm out in heels, I tend to wear longer jeans (or trousers) boots, and move around areas where I have quite a lot of places I can escape to if necessary. That could be various buildings (stores), numerous streets, or bars and restaurants. They would be familiar places, I'm comfortable in regardless to what I'm wearing. Westfield Stratford has been open 3 days. My only other experience of this sort of mall, is the quite upmarket White City branch. At this venue, there are cameras and staff everywhere. It's a private facility, and you might be asked to leave for any reason, at any time. [Though unlikely.] Security at Stratford will be even worse, as it's literally, right next door to the Olympic facilities. It's quite likely a man in heels, especially a stiletto, will catch the attention of the staff there. Worse, it might even appeal to their sense of humour as an opportunity for some sport. I own a small but attractive group of stiletto style shoes and boots. I can't and won't wear them in the street, because 3 out of 5 previous 'ventures' have concluded with heel damage. This limits their use. Shopping malls would seem to be the ideal place to strut my stuff, but I still have to be careful I don't attract unwanted attention. For example ..... Once at Lakeside, in a moderately well known clothing store [Marks and Spencer], one half of a couple got their partner to wait so they could both watch me leave the entrance to the toilet in the store. I was annoyed at their rudeness, and it took me some time to calm down. Fortunately, this sort of thing is very very infrequent. Tomorrow I'm hoping I'll have the 'courage of my convictions' and finally walk around a Westfield mall in thinner heels than I usually go out in. If I can I'll take a camera with me, and try to do a picture of my shoes with the Westfield logo somewhere in the image. This seems like a simple thing to do, and so it should be. BUT, taking photo's in a security sensitive venue, can be difficult if the security staff believe you are recording detail prior to mischief. I'll update the thread tomorrow night, all being well. .....
  23. 1 point
    warm gravel for breakfast? You were lucky...
  24. 1 point
    Next time you attend for correction, Freddy, you will leave with glowing testimonials. I assume you refer to one 'Kym Marsh' (not 'March')? I had no knowledge of her (carnal or otherwise) before your introduction and am content to preserve that status quo.
  25. 1 point