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    I remember that exchange too - and I'm sure I've posted it here. My copyright!
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    That’s true, avoidance is best. I attended a rather privileged liberal arts university in America in the 1970s where hippie culture was rampant and while there was a lot of pot around the campus, there were also plenty of people, myself included, who had nothing to do with drug culture but were certainly into all the other aspects of hippiedom. My girlfriend at the time was quite into pot culture, but she respected my leanings and never pressured me at all. And of course I respected her lifestyle too. Really nice girl - a very bohemian theatre type. Works in a bank now...
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    That’s the thing with technology nowadays - you can get a budget DSLR these days with capabilities far beyond what were top of the range pro models only a few years ago, and for the most part the demands of shooting for magazines etc have remained largely the same. We have capabilities far beyond our needs.
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    I agree. It is disappointing that our culture cultivates and encourages this sort of look and that so many parents tolerate it, or concede to the greater marketing forces. I am also deeply pleased that my own daughters have not bought into it in the slightest. They have no interest in that sort of thing and have found groups of friends among like minded kids.
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    In your position, or if I found myself in identical circumstances, I would not be able to resist engineering a way to entice some conversation about shoes and heels. It's just too much of a temptation.... Strategically, you could do with an ally or allies. Seems you might have them lined up anyway? Both your son (who seems like someone you are doubtless very proud of) and his girlfriend are two people who can be trusted. If Mrs R-I-B could be induced to helping, perhaps she could ask the girlfriend discreetly and informally, what she thinks of a man wearing (essentially) girls shoes by way of a girl-to-girl chat? Of course this notion might be completely unrealistic (I don't know your circumstances), but you are steadily moving toward a fairly open position about your heels, and I would think the longer you can have some control over the situation (as little as that might be) the better for you if a 'damage limitation' position is necessary. That's when having some additional family support might be helpful in maintaining some balance to a situation that could all too easily turn sour. I suppose the overall thinking is that bringing anyone 'onboard' with your shoe wearing, is going easier with greater chance of success doing it one household at a time, rather than having to confront a larger group who might already have made up their minds. Though I also feel you would/will have less of a battle than most of us. Given what you have revealed about how accommodating Mrs R-I-B has been, and how some of your immediate family might be just as supportive, I'm hoping to hear some good news in the not-too-distant future. On a side note, I was very pleased to read about the 14 year old who is getting support for her emotional needs, where her parents are not so obliging. We lost a family friend who had the same 'problem' and who didn't find the confusion easy to deal with. The truly upsetting thing is that having decided to go the journey and transition - so seemingly happy about the way forward - a night of bingeing on alcohol brought about a set of unfortunate circumstances and the loss of her life. Unlike the 14 year old mention, the family friend had support from everyone around her, but years of being confused about how she felt and why she felt, had taken its toll. No-one thinks self-harm was intentional, but a life-style created as a coping mechanism, may have gotten out of control. The conclusion I reached from this, was that it isn't possible to be overly-careful in these situations, especially with children who seem to be susceptible to giving in to dark thoughts simply because their age makes them prone to emotional extremes. As we read more and more every week, it appears there is a lot more 'gender middle ground' that had previously been realised.
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    Dark, and cobbled and stilettos sounds like an uneasy mix to me...
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    Yes, I understand why old wine can appreciate in value and why a collector will regard that missing vintage as a 'must have', regardless of price. (The concept is of course not unique to wine as many antiques, stamps, coins, books etc will also fall into that category.) But, potential investment appreciation aside, my central point remains: WHY sink money into something that cannot be enjoyed in any tangible sense, which is how this discussion started? I can understand the perceived beauty of some object that is not, perhaps, a conventional one for display and admiration (or indeed gloating). Freddy's bicycle frame is a case in point - it is attractive in its way (and doesn't need a 'frame' to display it!). After all, people like Tracey Emin have made fame and fortune from turning mundane and even rubbish items into so-called art. (In Herne Bay, as I write, there is an abandoned shop full of junk and jumble, plainly visible in the window and behind. Some wag has added a sticker inside which proclaims 'Window display by Tracey Emin'!)