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I had the domain for a few months and hadn't done anything with it. Decided to use it for my blog which is my view on men wearing heels in public and private. I am the Carrie Bradhaw of men so I believe it probably reaches the level of fetish for me...not necessarily sexual though. A fetish is defined as any compulsion that rises to the level of affecting your normal activities (or something like that). Heels definitely affect my entire life. They can distract me from anything else going on.

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These boots have a masculine look where they would peek out from under some long pants. The patent heel would be hidden by the pants but give you a little feminine style as well. The heel is thin at the bottom and might be an issue for some that prefer a block heel for men.

I would have no problem wearing these just about anywhere. The tread detail gives them a masculine feel.

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Sure, how?

Well, by contributing with what I hope are interesting/stimulating posts?

I'm interested in contempory Fashion, and spend a fair amount of time in stores, and on-line keeping in touch with what's available. I spend as much time as I can wearing heels, mostly in public. I suppose starting a Blog might be a useful reference to some in the UK, though I don't know if the facility here is functional.

It may be that the posts aren't that useful to US members or guests because the links will doubtless be UK based [though Overstockers.com recently had me spending money with them], but I'm sure some of the UK links will be useful to UK high-heel buyers.

As you know, I'm a bit of an evangelist. At some of the smaller London meets, I've played "mother-goose", (not my quote) encouraging other men to walk in public wearing their heels.

I'm doubtless being a bit naive, but I don't readily see a down-side to my posting here..... But I can be a little optimistic sometimes.

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glad to see that there is some activity

had a similar problem, and have read that someone else had, registration and activation did not go too smoothly

not having a go at anyone, however there could be something or setting that needs tinkering!!

most times if I struggle with a site, then I just move on!! there could be others like me out there!! potential members and contributors

however in this case as this site is unique, I persisted!!

sure this site wont die

its up to us members to make something out of it!!

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A bit of a tongue in cheek response from me .... But do you mean ....

A place where MEN can be REAL men? :o

I think I understand what you mean. But I just can't (myself) seem to separate high heels from femininity. Some of that, has me not wanting to I suppose.

One of the interesting questions I saw posed on HHplace, was; "Do you want to wear girls shoes, or do you want to wear high heels?"

I recognised many who were interested in the more feminine footwear styles, wanting to wear very girlie types, whereas I just wanted the heels. [And as close to 5" as I could get away with, the better.] Not that I had a problem with anyone wearing strappy sandals ...... as long as 'the look' indicated good taste with the rest of their attire.

Is it possible [serious note this] for a man to wear high heels, and anyone other than himself see him, as 100% male? I fancy not, but it would make an interesting debating point.

Ahhhh!

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The only time I have seen it said that "they are just shoes" was in the mens forum at HHPlace, but in general society for the time being heels=feminine and a man in them is seen as less than 100% masculine.

But cowboy boots somehow add masculinity even with a heel.

Funnily I have just had a short debate with my wife over heels again, as we decided to clear out under the bed and every pair of my heeled shoes/boots got an "eurgh". She said I was going all feminine on her again. That's the general opinion as far as I can tell. People may tolerate men in heels, but they will think it's less masculine.

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I wonder how many heels have been purchased, collected and thrown away because wives said "get them out of here!" As we all know, the desire doesn't go away. It can go into hiding for a while but it returns with a vengeance -- and a new collection of heels is purchased.

Back to the original question: "Is this place dying?" I have opined earlier that it was just getting started, only the startup was going slowly. Basically, that's still the case -- it is difficult to get traction and build up momentum.

HHplace casts such a huge shadow -- there is so much activity there that so many of us barely remember this site exists. Unfortunately I do not know how to change this situation.

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The "they are just shoes" originated, I think, from Jenny on the original site, spelled "shooz." I have also seen it somewhere else, but don't remember when. People and media are so desperate for a little something to sell stories and titillate otherwise drab lives that they will seize on any perceived aberration from some norm.

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..... in general society for the time being heels=feminine and a man in them is seen as less than 100% masculine.

But cowboy boots somehow add masculinity even with a heel.

Funnily I have just had a short debate with my wife over heels again, as we decided to clear out under the bed and every pair of my heeled shoes/boots got an "eurgh". She said I was going all feminine on her again. That's the general opinion as far as I can tell. People may tolerate men in heels, but they will think it's less masculine.

Rather sadly, I expect that was a Royal "we"? I've got gazillions of lovely boots and shoes, many more than I could ever wear. At least 5 types I've 3 or more identical pairs. My wife isn't happy about it, but I'm reasonably confident she'd rather I was buying shoes than spending money on drink, women, or drugs. She doesn't expect me to be perfect (which is a good job).

Only last night I wore my Harley Davidson 'Harness' boots (like cowboy boots) to the cinema at Stevenage. [i also wore some slightly flared trousers I really like, from M+S.] Think I'm the only person who noticed anything, and what I noticed was how reluctant I was to go into the Mens loos with noisey heeled boots. As is often ~ though not always the case, us men wearing heels are our own only real barrier to what we want to enjoy?

I wonder how many heels have been purchased, collected and thrown away because wives said "get them out of here!" As we all know, the desire doesn't go away. It can go into hiding for a while but it returns with a vengeance -- and a new collection of heels is purchased.

Back to the original question: "Is this place dying?" I have opined earlier that it was just getting started, only the startup was going slowly. Basically, that's still the case -- it is difficult to get traction and build up momentum.

HHplace casts such a huge shadow -- there is so much activity there that so many of us barely remember this site exists. Unfortunately I do not know how to change this situation.

Traffic.

People don't visit empty places. More posts, and more importantly interesting posts, will generate an increase in visitors. That and not limiting the site to a single theme. Obsessives are the only characters who can stomache a single subject lifestyle. [Elvis Presley fans spring to mind. :o]

More rounded individuals, those most of us prefer to associate with, will also prefer to converse with people with a variety of interests.

The only time I have seen it said that "they are just shoes" was in the mens forum at HHPlace

The "they are just shoes" originated, I think, from Jenny on the original site, spelled "shooz." I have also seen it somewhere else, but don't remember when.

Clothes, our own personal styles (restricted by our physical size and attributes) are a reflection of our personalities. Anyone who thinks/says "they are only shoes" understands nothing of fashion, nor culture.

How many Hells Angel friends do have? How many Skinhead friends? How many Punk Rocker friends? None, and it's because I've no association with these styles. In fact for the most part, I find them wholly unattractive.

A man wearing high heeled shoes or boots, is making a statement. It may be a statement that many don't like, and some won't accept. But a statement it is.... As is involving ourselves in other style statement, like those listed above.

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The original statement that "they are only shooz" relates to another one I saw which said, in essence "Have fun, it's only clothes", meaning don't get all up tight about high heels, they are only shoes.

Of course they are more than that to most of us and to many females also, but the message is that people shouldn't get all upset by different kinds of shoes.

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Bob, I now understand the context, thank you.

I'd venture to suggest that getting upset about the attire worn by someone else, is an extreme response? The behaviour of someone perhaps not fully mature in their outlook......

Conversely, if I've spent

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Glad to be here, not into what dress goes with these shoes etc, am a straight male been wearing girly shoes since I could afford to buy my own, but it started long before that, have been to three heels meets 2002, 2007, 2009 but it is not really my thing, loads of guys all wearing heels, I like to wear my heels on my own, doing it in my own right, and I think people respect that, but I do like to meet like minded people and everybody I have meet so far appear to be a good crowd. My ideal is a nice pair of black boots, clean 3-4 inch heels, with the heels on show this with a nice pair of jeans, looks great (male or female) and I do like some styles of shoes as well.:cool:

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I went to the heel meet in 2008, and enjoyed the experience.

Had a number of meets with other men heel wearers through 2008, but have been out in public more with girls, than I have done with other fellas.

While I tend to be indifferent to what anyone else in the world wears provided it's in good taste, I doubt I would be comfortable walking around in public with 15-20 other men wearing high heels. While (discreetly) wearing heels with another couple of men doing the same seems attractive, being part of what might appear to be a protest group, does not. :lol:

I own a ridiculous amount of black ankle or calf length boots with heels 4-5 inches high. There are few pairs I don't expect to wear outside eventually. My problem is making the time .... :cool:

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I went to the 2007 heel meet and meet loads of people, was a really good day, 2009 was not as good even got a parking ticket, as you do in London. For me I normally keep a pair of ankle boots in the van, as and when I feel pull into a car park put my heels on and have a wander around, any town or village I feel like, you know look in a few shops go to cashpoint machine, go to the chippy, wander back to the van, and at the end of the day (pardon the pun) feel great I have done what I wanted got my fix and away home, must admit I have had a few comments nothing nasty, but to me well worth it. I will be the first to admit it is comments on this site and hh place which have helped me, and given me courage to wear my heels out and about with out thinking about it.

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Members with less than 5 posts dont appear on the members list.

This is due to spam members who join up just to post URL's to their own websites selling trainers, porn etc...

This place isnt dying, its just getting started.

The beauty of it here is that you can make it what you want it to be, rather than the "inherited format" of another website.

So I have to post five messages to have my name on the members list huh? Well personally I don't expect a huge amount of activity but hay who knows.

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