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Thanks Freddy, I wouldn't say I was planning to wear them full time, but I would like to wear them more often. Where I work I suspect heels wouldn't go over well, and there are friends I haven't told. I guess the main thing is not feeling like I have to hide it from them. Hopefully some others have some input too, but thanks for your advice.

I have been pondering this. My folks are pretty old school, although they raised me to be very tolerant of others, even of folks who might be a bit unusual. I've worn heels in public, told my ex-wife about them shortly after we met, and yet, I've never told my family. My sisters might have their suspicions; my little sister actually asked if she could borrow a pair of sandals I used to wear which came out of the women's section, and one Halloween many years ago I tried on a pair of my older sister's heels, to which she gave me the "ew..." response. Otherwise, I've never told my folks, and I'm trying to decide if I should. My ex-wife and a priest friend of mine (whom I confided the heels to) think it's really none of their business. My friend the priest was cool with it, although his first reaction was "how do you even walk in them??". I guess the main reason I ask is although they started out as more of a bedroom thing, I've realized they really are part of who I am, and I often wear them around the house. I've worn them in public several times, but I still feel like I have to hide them from my family. Last time my parents visited I had to round up and hide all the shoes, lest they walk past my bedroom and see that the cats have pulled the closet doors open. So, does anyone have any thoughts? I feel like it would be a load off my shoulders if I could say "hey, I'm still your son (or brother), and I just happen to like wearing women's shoes". My guess is they might get a chuckle out of it, and I'm certain they aren't going to get all bent out of shape about it, but I guess I don't want to disappoint them. Maybe if I point out my ex (whom they liked very much) was OK with it, then maybe they will be more inclined to believe it's a harmless quirk.

That is a bummer, Iluvheels, and I'm sorry you had to go through that. Hope things have improved greatly since then.

Welcome! Hope this site continues to grow.

I believe it was my ex-wife who came up with "It doesn't matter what other people think of you, what matters is what you think of yourself.". Works for me!

Welcome Zenster! :cool:

Hopefully this place does stay alive. While hhplace is obviously still very popular, I must say it would be nice having a forum for guys not trying to be women.

"Good moaning, I have nose!" "What is your nose?" Uy, I watched the whole series of 'Allo 'Allo.

I think it's that too many folks see men being less than men as being a problem whereas women empowering themselves and being more masculine is less of an issue. I know guys who are quick to label almost anything as "gay", whether it's being able to cook a gourmet dinner, sew a button, or drive a convertible. If you think about it though, what did women have to go through throughout history? Time was when women couldn't drive cars, join the Army, or even wear pants without people thinking they were strange. Like Shyguy says, "it just is". Not going to change overnight either. I certainly don't plan on sitting on the sidelines waiting to see guys in heels; even in my limited heel wearing I've found most people don't care or don't give me any grief about it. At the very least I figure one of two things might happen. 1. Folks will become more used to seeing it, or 2. Maybe it will encourage some other guys to wear them too.

I actually haven't told anyone in my family. I think my sisters have their suspicions; I once tried on a pair of my older sister's heels at Halloween one year, and I've had some flat women's sandals that my little sister has borrowed. My wife is the only one who supported me in exploring it. She encouraged me not to feel ashamed of it, and firmly believes that there are probably lots of guys who have secretly wanted to try them.

I was lucky enough to meet someone who eventually became my wife, but early on we started talking about what turns each other on. I told her high heels turned me on a bit, and she got some to wear. I finally let on that I was curious what it was like to wear them, and she was cool with letting me try them. She got me a pair, and that led to another pair... And so on. She wasn't as turned on by them, but she accepted that it was part of who I am. Sadly, we're going our separate ways (for other reasons), but we're still best friends and do things together. She even gave me some of her heels I'd bought for her when I moved into my new house.

Hi FastFreddy2, I just joined here too from hhplace. Small world :-D.

I've been a member of hhplace.org for a while, and just learned about this one. I figured I would join this too, and I see there are other hhplace.org members here. For those who don't know me, I've had an interest in high heels since I was a boy. I always loved the look of them, and resented that guys had boring, ugly shoes to choose from. I met my wife a few years ago, and she encouraged me to explore it. She bought me a pair, and I've bought several since then. She didn't mind my wearing them around the house, and even thought I looked good in some of them. Sadly, we're getting a split (for reasons other than the high heels), but we're still best friends. I like sandals, pumps, and platforms, but have some interest in boots too. I recently wore a pair of stiletto boots out to the mall, and had almost no reaction. Recently I've had an interest in some women's clothing such as skirts, capri pants, and dress pants, but have no desire to try to be a woman or pass as one. My wife was cool with that too, and even offered tips on buying them.