I may have been unclear in my wording. My sisters fiancee is the one who has a the attitude of men wearring "womens" things is wrong etc .
The heels I gave away were some of my impulse buys, only to discover they were not really what I wanted.
My neice has seen me on the high heel meeting place before, I will just have to wait and see if she mentions/questions me about my wearing/liking heels.
Giving some of the ones I didn't like that much makes more room for ones I really like.