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I think knowledge grows as needed, for our kids what they know now is 'everything' and is as it should, and when kids grow up they learn more, hopefully in some point they realize that learning is lifetime journey and you need to have open mind and heart to be ready to learn new every day in your life. Nope, topic has not brought up after the shopping trip. I think I will bring it up at some point, but not going to push it. Every now and then she does bring up the costume party where I dressed as a woman and her mother as Elvis. It is still somewhat confusing for her that dad did play girls role. Maybe I'll talk to her about the shopping thing next time the issue comes up from her side. Thanks! I'm sure everything will be perfect, but I'm still bit nervous, I'm performing there on 3 songs which 2 are new songs I've composed and arranged for the wedding. One cover song, which I've arranged for my acoustic guitar and lady singer, as a part of ceremony, and two more during the night. One is performed by wedding couple, I'll be playing guitar and rest of 'band' is playback (I can't play all instrument live, had to record them in advance ). Another one of my compositions is performed by my wife and me on the guitar again, song will be surprise for the wedding couple. Lyrics for the new songs are written by other half of the wedding couple, she is poetess. Even I've been producing and arranging music for some years already and in past made and played lots of own music, I'm still bit nervous as It will be first public presentation for my own composed music for years (+15 years or so). And it happens live, in front of some professional musicians joining the wedding... I know I'll be fine, this is just normal performance anxiety I'm going through Based on the shopping trip, our friends have made jokes couple of times about me wearing heels for their wedding, so I'm actually planning to take some high heeled shoes to wedding and see if there would be a moment to put them on and play little joke back on wedding couple... we'll see

Hmm... it has taken quite much longer than I expected, probably because of issues in relationship didn't resolved as in timely manners as I thought and hoped for, but it starts to look like we have finally resolved at least most of the issues and trust and honesty has been built again to the level where it should be for any relationship to work. Living and learning is constant motion and seems that we all are blind to some holes on the ground and missteps do happen. All energy has been drained by the issues at home plus I've had huge workload from my employer so there has not been any power left to sport out in heels, just some minor stuff, but last week I had fun situation I want to share with you; I was shoe shopping with my wife and our friend couple. Our friends are getting married this weekend, and they were looking for wedding shoes. Other half of that couple has quite big feet for woman, EU size 43-44 depending on the shoe and they didn't know where to look for women dress shoes that size (she has always worn only sneakers and crocs). Well, I happen to know some shoe shops in our town so I knew where to take them. And it didn't take long to find suitable shoes for her, not heels but nice dress shoes anyway. Then we started to look shoes for second half of that couple, she has some issue with her legs so no high heels for her either. While we were browsing through the shoe racks, she made a joke that maybe I should wear heels for their wedding because either of them won't. I took the moment and picked up red ankle boots with 4" stiletto heel from the nearest shelf and put the shoe on and modeled to my friends 'like this you want?'. My wife was very cool about it, she played along and was making statements how good the shoe looks on me, and second half of the couple who dared me was also very cool about it, but first half was freaking out and she didn't know what to say or how to act it was hilarious moment.. not because I was trying on the heeled shoe, but how she reacted and everyone else was so cool. We had one of our kids with us there too, and she drag her mother bit away and made a statement that only her mother can come. Later my wife told that kid was bit unsure how to react when dad put girls shoe on, that she said that boys can't wear girls stuff. My wife told her that there is nothing wrong if girls want to wear boys stuff or boys want to wear girls stuff. It was quick discussion but shows how deeply our society is labeling girls and boys, and how 9 years old is already confused if someone crosses the 'norm' gender line. And it shows how deeply those labels are planted to even 9 years old girls head, even we constantly talk about gender neutrality and freedom of will and everything, we have very close friends, gay couple, getting married this weekend and our kids call them both mothers for their kids and everything... our kids have open minds, and still she is confused about what she saw. It could be that issue was that DAD did something like that, it could have been totally normal moment if some other man had done that... who knows. But of course I know 9 years old head is going wobbles on every new situation and it matters most how we react on those moments... and our reactions and words will count later when kids grow. Hopefully they learn our way of thinking. I also tried some wedge sneakers I've been looking to buy for some time already, but didn't like the look on me of particular model they had there so I skipped them. I was about to drop just a quick one liner to update some of my status but seems I had more to open up after long silence...

Can we count in male celebs as well? Adam Lambert is known to wear heels in regular basis. I usually like his style, specially like his style in the attached picture. Source

My personal top two at 2013 Eurovision song contest was Norway and Azerbaijan... liked those most of all.

All my shoes, including those with heels, are all around the house just like everyone else's shoes in my family. Those that I wear often are in shoerack or on floor at hallway, some in shoeclosets in hallway, some stored at our bedroom drawers, some under the stairs stored in boxes... I don't have a need to hide anything, my shoes have equal rights in my house

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Sounds almost like a perfect shopping adventure to me. Way to go!

I'd say you can, 'cause the you wouldn't be wearing high heels But with heels, you should be careful on stairways, slippery surfaces and such. Here in Finland winter is long and sidewalks and yards are covered with ice many months per year so it takes lots of caution to walk in heels. And even after ice is gone, it still takes effort to walk without injuries because before they clean sidewalks off of rubble (little stones and sand they put on icy surfaces to make it less slippery, don't know the word and used online translator) it is slippery after the ice is gone, because then the rubble works as an bearing between you heel and hard surfaces.

Slowly but surely I'm making progress I've recognized 'the issue' and been able to work on it... and good things follow the hard work; I've been able to overcome the first big blocks of wearing high heels again, and the best part, with pleasure! I have encountered issues in my past life that I thought I've overcome, at least to some degree, but something happened that triggered old mindset that caused lots of waves in my head, that caused echoes to other aspects of life as well. It is overwhelming how things you (at least thought you) left behind, slap your face out of the blue and make your mind go back to dark ages again and how it takes lots of effort to be able in a first place to admit that to yourself and then start to work on it... But as said, the hard work is carrying positive results and I can say that I'm coming back... slowly but surely

I also started by trying my mother's and older sister's shoes. I can't recall at what age or any particular pair of shoes I tried, but I remember when left home alone, I used to sneak in to closets to find shoes to try on. The same sneaking took a place when I was sometimes allowed to go to my dad's workplace with him, and while he was concentrating to his work, I was wondering around the office and locker rooms to find women shoes to try out. One particular pair I still remember, dark brown greenish knee high, with zipper and block heeled boots. What a sensation it was to try them! Size was perfect, they fit perfectly around ankle and calf, I was in seventh heaven when I put the boots on and pulled up the zipper first time. I think that was a starting point for me liking the heels on me, I can't recall any high heels from home, but those boots had maybe 2 or 3 inch heels and that feeling on my feet was incredible. At the same time when I had the boots on and was walking around the locker room to get the feeling, my father had finished his work and was looking around for me. I didn't hear him coming, I was still in heaven and didn't pay any attention, but when I saw my father at the door, taking quick look on me, turning around in a way that can tell that he really didn't like what he saw, just mumbling that we are going home now, I think I also generated shame and guilty feelings for wearing the boots based on my father reaction. We never spoke about that later, I think my father just wanted to ignore what he saw. But it might have hit him later when I was openly cross dressing and my parents knew it as well, my mother took it very badly in a first place but my father was cool about it. I didn't realize it earlier, but most probably my father had an idea already. I think I was never caught by my mother and that one time only by my father, and I guess my parent never spoke what my father saw in that locker room... so he was somewhat prepared but my mother was not. But the starting point was most probably the boots I tried on at the locker room. The sensation of perfect fit on size and everything, the feeling of the lift the heels generated... yeah, I call this event to be the moment when I started to like wearing heels.

Hi Haxan, welcome to the forum

Nope, she was older them me at that time, maybe 30 something. I didn't pay that much attention for her, just remember how strange she behaved. Double that. It is still fun to go 'all in' time to time, but the excitement and that inner satisfaction it used to bring is not there any more. Stepping back to shoe shopping experiences, it is somewhat amusing that younger days I had no trouble going to shoe store or any shop carrying women's only clothing and lingerie and everything, and without any hesitation was trying out shoes, dresses, etc. even I was shopping in man mode. But later on, when things evolved from cross dressing to using only high heels from the 'wrong side of the aisle', my brain generated great grand wall of shame and hesitation for shopping the heels. Go wonder. And I had to build up the courage from ground zero again to be able to try on the shoes in the stores and to go our bravely being me. I've came out to conclusion that when I was younger and doing CD thing, it was sort of 'on you face' type of approach and sort of youth rebellion against norms and rules. And when gained years, it became more of trying to blend in and seeking acceptance...

My first time shopping heels just for me... hmm... it must have been around 20 years ago, and I must admit that I don't remember great details, but at that time I was cross dressing and I was buying women's clothing and shoes openly and without any hesitation. I got lots of shoes from second hand shops, but some I bought from shoe stores as well. One particular pair of boots I remember, I think I still have them somewhere. I went to shoe store with my (that time present) wife and for some reason at that time I didn't try the boots on, just bought them based on size on the shoe. And of course they didn't fit, so back to the store. This time alone, and that time I openly told that boots are for me and I need them probably one size bigger. Sales girl went all red face and almost panicked and she was in real trouble with the situation. She was looking around the store to see if anyone noticed me and my boots I had placed on the desk. And this time I also wanted to try the new size at the store before bringing them back to home. And at that point sales lady almost fainted so mostly for her comfort, I asked if I can use back room for trying on the boots, and she was ok with that. So I tried the boots, noticed the sales lady checking me trying on the boots and turning away again red faced when she noticed that I saw her peaking from the door. I really don't know what was going on with the sales lady, but I bought the right size boots and left the story without second thought. Later on my cross dressing fainted and most fade away, but love for the shoes kept growing even stronger, and in one point I realized that is was actually the shoes why I was cross dressing in the first place. That was quite big relief, even I was very serious about dressing and putting full effort to look as feminine as possible. Today I put a wig and makeup maybe once a year, usually for some costume party and that fills my inner need to be in full drag and show my feminine side full open to the world. Otherwise it's just about the shoes, being man who just happens to like shoes with higher heel.

But for the topic, I like the look of the first shoes shyguy posted. Other nice brand doing some unusual heels is Ironfist, http://shop.ifladies.com/footwear.html

God Save the Queen? Tongue in cheek, sorry, couldn't resist

[personal rant mode on] Where did I lost my courage all of suddenly? Damned, me who has been going out in heels frequently, with some fears of others reactions but still confident and holding my head high. And now, for past two months I've been chickening out so many good opportunities to wear heels. Why? Just because for some unknows reason my own head is creating huge issue about heels wearing. I'we worn heels at home, couple of times went out driving in heels just get the feeling, but doing much more than that has been nearly impossible for me lately. I know that the real issues is not heels or what think other would think about me, this is just an echo about something else in my head and my brain is just reacting and playing out the unseen through my heel wearing. But God please help me, this is so frustrating! I want to go out in heels again, beeing normal about it and give other people change to be normal about as well. I know when time passes I'll get over the real issues that are affecting my heel wearing now, but damn this is not fun anymore. [personal rant mode off]

We people get stressed so easily you know, too much pressure and we just fade away... just kidding... too much hassle in outside world, not enough time to jump in to the wonderful world of internet. But seruíously speaking, not everyone is an contributor. And some who contribute, does it infrequently, some more frequently, and that is one great thing about us people, we all are different, some of us maybe bit more different than others... (pointing on the finger my own image on mirror). But thank God it's Friday, and I have finally time to sit down and browse some internet and take a moment at the sites that are important to me, like heels4men.

Good one

I used to have cats as well. Earlier, like 15 years ago I had 2 Maine Coons for couple of years, perfect cats in my eyes. I had to give them away for various reasons but they really got good place to stay. Later on I had 2 another cats, they were just home cats, not any special breed. Those I had for many years, 8 maybe... then I had give these away as well, life changed in a way that cats couldn't stay. Boy I miss those cats still, after 4 years I had to part with them.

You're right guys, forum is as quiet as quiet we are... If we want to keep this excellent place interesting for new people to join in, we need keep up posting stuff and keep discussions ongoing. Of course we are still small number of people who contribute to this site, but hopefully we'll get more crowd joining in to discussions.

Good looking shoes there. I've been looking for similar shoes for a while from local shoe stores but no luck so far. Those should be easy to wear unnoticed!

Happy new year from me to everyone too! This new years eve I wore black winter boots with 2" heel while checking the fireworks outdoors with 2 of our kids, then at home alone, kids already in bed, I changed to ankle boots with 4" spike heel (to spent rest of the year in heels ) and to start new year in heels too, and then next day had ankle boots with 3" block heel when went to pharmacy with one of our kids.

To keep my out and about alive, here is quick pic my wife captured under the table while we were having lunch at chinese restaurant. The winter boots I'm wearing are close to knee high, fake suede, approx. 2" heel. I wear these out every now and then, they have at least little heel which actually shows all the way, heel shape prevents pants to cover them at all. Many people takes a look on these, even they are quite masculine type of shoes, but I quess any heel on men is eyebrow lifter for average jane and joe.

Two pretty much quest months passed by, not much heels nor heel related happenings... just some random outings, but wanted to let everyone know I haven't disappeared anywhere Well, ok, yesterday I was out just with my youngest kid, me wearing heels. So almost alone, at least without adult companion. We went to pharmacy, pretty many people noticed my shoes (you can tell when eyes go from shoes to your eyes, scan you body to check if you really are a man, then back to shoes, repeat couple of times) but no comments or that much longer looks.

Hello and welcome from me as well.