Jinx

Good to hear that you got guts to go out on your own FreshinHeels. To be honest I don't go out alone in heels either that often. I think for me it is because even I wear heels quite frequently, I still need or not maybe need but I long for acceptance and feeling of normality for my heeling. And that what accepting companion brings in, for me it is a sort of a sign for others that 'hey, look, my SO does not freak out if I wear heels, why should you?'.

Wetboot, I think you have found the most important key for beeing out and about in heels; you act normal, no need for beeing nervous, stand your ground with good confidence... and people around will act normal as well! Very good to hear of your successful outing in heels. And I must admit that going out wearing 5" heels is not 'baby steps' in my vocabulario!

For a change I got these out of the shoe closet yesterday. Just a quick visit to my father's tomb to light a candle again, this time for Father's Day memory. Otherwise quiet weekend.

English is native language only for small portion of people around, so don't be shy of your writing skills. This is for everyone, please share your experiences, every story counts! No matter how small or big, people who come here are interested about it.

I believe that heels4men is a sort of peer support group for many members. They don't have much to contribute but they get lots of by reading about experiences of others, building up their own confidence to go out one day wearing heels or just living the dream of wearing heels in their dreams... either way I'm more than happy to share my experiences and feelings and thoughts here for everyone to read. Maybe some day currently quiet members will tell their own stories and share their own experiences. By 'there hasn't been much going on' I ment that there hasn't been much going on on heels related side of my life. Uneventful is not word that describes my daily life ...but for sharing stuff here at heels4men, I tend to think that people who come here to read my thoughts and events are more interested of heel'ish themes more than for example my strugles with 3 kids with special needs and their problems at schools and their therapies' or how I've spent 6 hours some night renovating our home... of course if I ever try to balance on ladders on my 5" spikeheel boots using nail gun or chop firewoods in OTK boots heels stuck in gravel, I'll let you know That gave me very warm feeling. Thanks for those words. And beeing out and about, yesterday we went to see Jennifer Lopez show. She had her first appearance in Finland and my wife wanted to go the concert. I don't know if I've ever seen so many boots and heels in one place at a time... arena was fully booked with approx. 13000 people beeing there, 90% of those women, and 90% of those in heels, boots and all kinds fancy wootwear. I can tell you that I was not only looking at Jennifer on the stage but there was really some eye candy available at that night and my wife joined that 90% of the leidies, she had her favourite nude calf high 4" boots on and she looked gorgeous as always! And I had my black ankle boots (I know, again the same pair, am I getting boring?). We really had a blast, show was good, Jennifer was excellent and I had a good time in heels again. I got quite lots of looks but no one commented or anything. I take that as an sort of acceptance, I think I wore my heels in plausible manner with good confidence 'cause no one had a need to laugh or point fingers or through in any comments.

Been quite quiet here lately but there hasn't been much going on... I've worn my latest black ankle boots out couple of times; Picked up a chainsaw from hardware store where it was for repair because of failed chain oil pump, and wandered around the store for good 30-40 minutes with my wife and some of our kids. Uneventful outing, don't know if anyone noticed my heels. At All Saints' Day we went to graveyard to light a candle to my dad's tomb and a candle for my wife's dad memory. Graveyards are really crowded at All Saints' Day when people go out to light a candles for their lost loved ones. I got some long looks but I held my head high. I decided to go there in heels because my dad always accepted me as I am and I want to remember and cherish that even over 10 years after he passed away. I was there with my wife and our youngest kid. I wore the same ankle boots again yesterday, first we went to my mom's place to pick up our youngest kid my mom was looking after. I guess my mom is getting used to it that I wear heels in public every now and then, atleast this time she didn't share any comment about it. Then we wen't to restaurant for dinner, at the other table there was one big muscle alfa type guy with his family taking looks on me frequently, but nothing else happened or no one else paid any attention. Don't know if that guy was keeping eye on me because of my heels or something else but I left him unnoticed on my side. I had the dinner with my wife and our youngest kid. That's pretty much about is this time

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Thanks for your comment wetboot

Acceptance is respecting others' opinions and choises. And in relationship respect is one of the fundamentals one should build up. You can argue and have different views of things, but as long as both have respect on each other, things will work out. My wife, well yes, she is something very special. She have never said a single word against my heel wearing. She is always very supportive, no matter where we are going or whom ever we are going to meet, she always encourages me to put heels on if I like. We love each other, we respect each other and we are honest to each other. We do have argues and we don't agree on every aspect of everything, but we still respect each others views. I told her day one when we met that I have thing for women shoes and I wear them as well, and that is something that I can't change or I can't hide, it is part of me and it won't go away even if I would like to (which I don't, also said that). And she didn't blink an eye, just said with a warm grin on her face, 'then show me you shoes man, impress me', and here we are

I found my old post at hhplace regarding the cruise I mentioned... will share it here as well Addon to the old story, the brown ankle boots I mentioned are the ones shown few posts ago.

Way to go! So true. Dissapointment and failures are part of life you (me, we) live, and as soon as you are not afraid to fail or get dissapointed, you'll find a new world to conquer. I've worn thin high heels out only two times. First time was years ago when I was just starting to explore world of heel wearing outdoors, and second time few years a go at cruise.

Nice! Good to hear that it works also on others, not just me There is a big mental difference if you wish or you want something. If you really want something, your mind will make its ways to make you to accomplish your dream. If you just wish something to happen, you are waiting for fairy godmother to make it happen for you. But if you want something, you will make it work for you and then you get blessings from fairy godmother

Thanks FreshinHeels Some other boots and shoes I've bought and worn, if not recently or often but outdoors anyway.

Thanks That's the way I want to look, feel and hope others would relate as well... being man, being able to wear shoes that happen to have few inches heel, being totally normal about it and world around me being totally normal about it. A great man once said "I have a dream" and he made the world turn... and this is my take on making my dream come true.

Miltboot, I have not worn those OTK boots since outdoors, only couple of time indoors. hh4evr1 and Love4heels, thanks, I feel very comfortable with those boots, they are masculine enough not to attract any unwanted attention. People see them but go on their own business' without reactions. ff2, I agree on your points. Every outing and post about it counts and encourages others to try maybe someday something similar on their own. And to keep it on the out and about topic, today I wore the same new ankle boots to toys'r'us and hardware store. Got some looks but no comments. I was there with two of our kids and my wife. She took picture from behind me not knowing it. Later she shared the pic with me

And while I'm on the topic finding old pictures on my computer, here is one couple of years old. I attented costume party with my wife. My wife dressed up as Elvis and I played role of his muse. We really had a blast, danced for hours and had so much fun. So here is me as Elvis' muse I wore shord denim dress and had these on for whole night. And I can tell that I got quite lots of comments for the boots, all positive and admiring, some women were amused of my ability wear heels and dance all night just like that... little they know

Keeping blog makes me feel unconfortable, it makes me feel pressure to keep it up to date... while thread like this gives room in my own mind to come back and tell my stories and show pictures when I feel like it. I know it is only my own head playing tricks on me but what gives... this is way I found it most natural way to share my experiences. Regarding the galleries, I suspected post count as well. I'll give it a shot again once I have more posts on my account. And for the privacy of my face... well, I go out wearing heels to everyone to see me... I used to favor pictures without head or behind when I was out in heels but then I realized that what the heck, it is me wearing those heels and I'm out where everyone can see me as I am - I asked question from myself, why should I fear pictures of me showing my identity while I don't hide my face when going out in public either? And answer lies in the photos taken me nowdays, like the one in my first post in this thread For the sake of the pictures, here is one old I found from my computer, must be from 2005 or so, younger and much more fit me

I bought new ankle boots some time ago... material is real leather, heel height is 3". Very comfortable to wear. and wore them right away at mall after getting out of the shoe shop I spent about 3 hours at mall with my wife, last went to grocery where she took the pic of me. After 3 hours no comments or double looks, everything was very natural and at least I didn't notice anyone to notice my shoes... or at least they didn't react if they did. I thought of collecting new and old photos of me and my shoes here under one thread... for some reason I was unable to upload pics to members gallery. But anyways, here is Jinx out and about. Please feel free to comment.

My opinion is that don't make any excuses... cat is already on the table. Now you have most excellent moment of taking steps out of the closet and let the world know you wear heels. I know it is easy to say it here behind the screen and not knowing your life and friends and everything, but still I would take the chance because your moment is now! If you still need excuse, make a deal with your wife about it first. Nothing blows you cover worst than you're telling different story.

They have seen me in heels but mostly I keep it discreet. I'm not hiding it but not making any big issue of it either. I wear heels to malls, nightclubs, shows, etc... to every day places, I'm not making any 'now I head out to wear heels in public' plans or special trips to wear heels. I wear them where I want and when I want... excluding my day job of course. But yes, I do get excellent support

Welcome from me as well

Thanks for warm welcome FastFreddy2, you're quite right, there is not much time left for hanging around in the internet... with 6 kids you always have some situation going on, on top of that my wife runs her own business (band/show/entertainment agency) where I help when I can, we are renovating our house, I run private record label on my spare time, etc... sometimes it feels that there is bit too much to handle but on the other hand, there is usually no time to get bored My day job is restrictive in perspect of experimenting any freestyle fashion. I simply can't put my position/targets to any kind of thread just because I would like to do something differently than others do... sometimes you just need to adjust to others expectations. But on my free time (what is that?) I can do what ever I want. My wife supports my heel wearing 100%. She encourage me when I have my doubts if I can wear heels or not, sometimes she even pushes me a bit to get heels to my feet. Kids... there would be thousand and one aspects of life and stories with them. We've been trying to raise them to be open minded and accepting everyone as is. For the shoes, well, shoes are just shoes. We haven't made any big deal about shoes for them. I'm not trying to hide my heel wearing from kids, but I'm not making any number in front of them about it either. Our oldest daughter (just had her 20th birthday, not a kid really anymore) has thing for shoes. Whenever she buys new shoes I'm usually the first one to see them and she's asking my opinion how they look on her. Other kids are not showing any interest to shoes so far... except our youngest 3 years old daughter she definetly has a thing for shoes. She is walking around house with her sisters, mothers and fathers heels, and she is always very picky about footwear when going out. My kind of girs you might say... Two sons and other two daugthers couldn't care less what they have on their feets. My wife is not too keen to wear heels on her own, but she does wear them every now and then either to please me or to macth with outfit when going out. Like I mentioned, my wife fully supports my heel wearing and I have no issue with her either if she doesn't want to wear heels on her own. Everyone on their own. Time to run again, other aspects of my life are requiring attention...

Hi, I'm Jinx. Some of you may know me from my few posts at hhplace.org forum but I wanted to join Heels for Men site as well to support men rights to wear shoes of their choise. I'm married with 6 kids and I work in IT/Telecommunication industry. I like to wear and I have lots of different styles of shoes, but mostly I like block heels and ankle boots... In my opinion those are easiest to match to clothes that I wear regularly. I mix high heels with male outfit, I don't mix any other articles from 'other side of the aisle' to my attire. I'm not the most active writer at the forums but I hope to have something to say every now and then See ya' Jinx