shyguy

That's a shame, this could be a better site for getting men in heels together than one where there's a lot of cd / TV talk. I do enjoy reading the posts about skirts, makeup and hosiery, but I am not into anything other than wearing heels (and some other womens flat shoes but this is heels4men) I'll also agree sometimes a skirt can work well with heels for some men. I have worn a skirt but it does nothing for me, and just looks wrong on me, I'll point that out before any pictures are brought out showing me in a skirt as there are some around :grin: Provided Heels4men can stay fairly focused on the heels and not become another CD / TV discussion then it is a very valid site for men who want to wear heels as men and should become more popular.

I vaguely remember the 70's platforms for men, but was too young to be part of it. I do remember the New Romantics of the 80's though and the blurring of the genders clothing wise during that era.

I keep my heel wearing fairly secret, especially from my parents who are very conservative and my brother who wouldn't understand at all. Even so some members of my extended family know about my thing for heels. I have a cousin who knows, she is a shoe-a-holic and I would talk to her about the shoes and boots she wore which I admired, and eventually confessed to her. So who in your extended family knows?

It's always tough when you have a secret you're keeping from someone close. To try to broach the subject with my wife in the early days (before we got married) I used all kinds of ploys, without straight out telling her. I would try her shoes on as "a joke", as we're similar size foot. I would comment on heels I saw while we were out shopping, and many other little hints. None of them got the message through and in the end it was just up to me to spell it out, I like heels, I'd like to wear them. She still isn't completely comfortable with it, although she has given me two pairs of shoes with lowish heels which she bought and doesn't like (women and their changing minds a?) and has taken pics for me of me in my heels. As for public heeling, she is against it except for one pair of the heels she gave me which are the ones in the linked image below. Not high but not normal mens height so it's a compromise. The advice I would give is be honest with your wife or girlfriend, don't push too hard to get what you want, each time I try to force things along it goes backwards, but if I plant a seed and let it grow in her mind and we get further forward towards what I want to do. Take it slow make small changes towards your heel wearing goals and allow your S/O time to adjust before going the next small step.

I think the oldest one has an idea about it, but it's not in the open so no discussion. The middle one has commented on it when I wore the shoes my wife gave me as she no longer wore them and they have a 2" wedge kind of heel. The youngest spotted my heels under the bed, and assumed they were mummy's old "clip clops" that she didn't wear any more, my wife just agreed that they were.

They look very nice, I like the rounded toe on them keeps them on the masculine side and the heel isn't too thin, or too blocky. A nice looking pair of boots Elegant.

I think that's a good analogy, the more we're told no, the more inviting something becomes. It was the whole "heels are taboo for men" thing which made it more exciting for me to begin with. As for kids, my daughter at 13 would only wear "boys" clothes but a year on she is very girly. We never stopped her from wearing the clothes, she decided herself to wear more feminine things. Can't comment on boys wearing heels though as I have 3 daughters.

Hi all, is it always this quiet? Hope we can all bring it back to life here.