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She is stunning. The perfect woman, on the face of it. Shame I'm so old, she so young. I'm sure she could make me very happy. Though even in my 20's, I doubt she would have looked at me twice. No matter, I've had my go at wondrous things. Though I'm still amazed at what happens to me some days. I've had and continue to have, a great life. (Long may it continue! )

Thank you, and you are welcome. I ought to add that possibly understanding why these meets don't happen makes it no less disappointing about the lack of socialising in what is quite a niche interest, although maybe not a niche as many would think. I have over the years re-sold many pairs of heels I've owned that either didn't fit, or I didn't want to keep. A fair percentage of those sales have been to men. One of the pairs with the highest heels, and possibly the most expensive I've sold, were to a man at a face-to-face meeting. He was no more embarrassed than I was, and the fact I was selling very high heeled boots in a mans size (UK9) made no difference at the exchange. He might have been buying a foot-pump for his car, the transaction was so 'matter-of-fact'. But would he attend a 'men-wearing-heels' meeting? I doubt it since his interest seemed to be of the 'self-gratification' variety. Meaning he was happy to pay for something he might wear for 10 minutes of fun (with him young enough for it to be several times a week) rather than it be a 'lifestyle' interest. While looking into opportunities for meeting venues, I found the London Alternative Market, which might be a regenerated London Fetish Fair. Entry is just £5, so affordable, but the location is deep in the heart of the City of London. Not a great place to get to, without using public transport. Might be something to think about, for the Home Counties based members here. Travelling from elsewhere, might add too much cost to an untried venue. Volunteers?

I can only say going to a heel meet boosts ones confidance a hell of a lot, and lets you know you are not the only one in the world that likes to wear heels. So far I have been to three first one in Cambridge May 2002, second Miller in London 2007 meet loads of guys from overseas, and was a world heel meet, third was also at the Miller London 2009, and I enjoyed all three, but I have also meet guys locally, you know one to one, with no problems at all.

Of all the people I could be talking about, you would not be one of them. I'm aware through experience, you would attend a social gathering, (as might "Heels") with we three having met up together, many times in the past. In fact, you were one of the two people that waved me toward the (hidden) entrance door of the Miller pub back in 2008 - if I remember correctly. The 'Meet' in 2008 was really very special because it had an international flavour - including the bar maid it would seem! Here's some background to that time .... Until a few weeks before the big meet (there was a dinner together before that with about 9 attendees) several of us had no knowledge of men wearing heels as a group. Certainly in my case, I was almost overwhelmed to find my interest (straight man, practically non-TV) wasn't alone in the world with regard to my finding pleasure in wearing a heel. Of course I knew other men wore heels, I'd seen them years before, but these were for the most part, TV/TS or drag. Otherwise 'regular' men wearing heels because they could, and liked them, was 'news' to me? There was at least one person (who attended the meal on the 14th), made mention that his interest in wearing heels, and feeling isolated because of it, had produced some strong mental health issues. (Thinking of self-destruction.) His contact with the group, and attendance which allowed regular conversation with other like minded people, enabled him to 'normalise' his interest, rather than let it isolate him. His attendance, quite literally changed his life. To be honest, it also changed mine. I got involved with the group as a whole, and did my bit to help and support others who possibly didn't have my confidence to start with. Once I had spent some time out in the real world in a heel during daylight in a non-fetish situation, and having established my interest wasn't unacceptably unique, I became a great evangeliser for the cause. Not only "talking the talk", but quite literally, "walking the walk" (in heels). Part of my evangelising activity was to encourage social activity via meetings. Several of us met from time to time. Travelling to a central place, typically London, takes time, effort, and there's cost. Add that everyone involved gets older with every day, become less enthusiastic for venturing out breaking normal routines, it's not hard to understand how 5 or more people might struggle to find matching energy levels/time and money for a group meeting. I've mentioned confidence levels, but there is possibly another deeper psychological reason for what appears to be a reluctance to 'share'. Let me propose that many men take their pleasure from a heel, through sexual self-gratification. Many of those 'many' will have solitary experiences, that could never be shared with their partner, assuming their interest in heels doesn't prevent them having a partner to start with.... These men are likely used to keeping their interest in wearing a heel, in 'the closet'. Might be they are members of forums or BB's where they read about and share experiences, but their real world experience of wearing high heels amongst other men, is a big fat zero. How important to the lives of these men who maybe spend 10 minutes a week in heels, would meeting other men who are into wearing wearing heels, likely be? These men might spend 10 minutes every day, maybe 30 minutes, maybe an hour every day, thinking about heels and when they'll get to put a pair on. But it seems to me, their enthusiasm often never leaves the bedroom, much less is taken out to meet people socially. Believe me, I'd be happy to have this all wrong. I wish it were as simple as; "Can we all meet at xxxxxxxx on DD/MM/YYYY? Who is in?" And 20 people put their hand up to join a gathering. Even somewhere as busy as HHp, the offer of a 'meet' (certainly in the UK) might after a week or two of wrangling over dates and locations, produce two interested people, and one of those might be the person trying to organise the meet.