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Thanks Nemasis, those will be useful for a lot of the guys who have trouble finding shoes they want to wear in sizes they can. Anyone do the same for the UK members?

I know only of the usual two, Evans and Brantano , which go up to size 10 UK.

Well said Elegant, putting pressure on people to wear something because you like it is not the way it should be. And being honest isn't that why all us guys are reluctant to wear heels, I know in my case it's because of the pressure from my wife to conform to her ideal of what shoes men wear.

Welcome aboard Dacre, hope you enjoy your visits to this site, and I look forward to reading your posts.

Thanks Simon, not sure I'll get the chance to wear these especially in the British summer we're having.

Hi HFMROK good to see you here, hope to see you posting regularly too.

Recently we had a day out to go swimming as a family, and I decided to borrow my wifes shoes which look a bit like trainers as they were quick to slip on. I stress they look only very slightly feminine, and are not noticably womens. However our teenage daughters know they are their mums, and it appears that so does our 5 year old. As we got out of the car at the leisure centre, the 5 year old says "Dad why are you wearing mums shoes?"

Both my teenage daughters and their friend looked down, and all 3 laugh hysterically.

My wife says "why not? they don't look like womens shoes do they?"

I just look at them, tut and carry on towards the entrance.

My eldest daughter giggles a bit more, asks me why I'm wearing mums shoes again, I just said that they were comfortable and quick to slip on.

That was the end of the conversation. All went as normal then, no more was said about dad wearing mums shoes.

I'm guessing that would be the reaction of most people to a guy in womens shoes / heels, takes them by surprise and they react, as long as it isn't made into an issue it's soon forgotten. What do you all think?

hi Heels (pun intended) welcome to Heels4Men. I look forward to seeing any pics you post and hope to get to know you here too.

crop trousers from next and mules from Evans a few years ago. I have no fashion sense but just for fun what do you think?

Nice blog Cassie, just posted a reply on there.

I have nothing new to post of late, how about you guys? This site could do with a kick up the rear to get it going though.

I'm not a big fan of pointy toes on shoes either but those don't look terribly long like some I've seen. They're not for me though, so if you like them, enjoy them.

Here is my take on the validity of keeping this site going.

When I told my wife I liked to wear heels her first reaction was the "are you gay" one followed by "are you going to have a sex change on me". The 2 common responses from what I've seen from other guys.

I was then posting at HHplace and she walked in and "caught" me there. We browsed through together and because she is looking to back up her own beliefs about men and heels she notices all the posts about wearing skirts and the CD/TV stuff.

Puts my case back a few months as I again have to reassure her not all men who wear heels want to go full TV or CD.

That could be avoided with a site like this one for men in heels to come to. They could then introduce their partners with no fears about showing them men in heels dressed as women.

My wifes answer to this deep sociological question was "it just is".

I think the answer is as Elegant pointed out, it isn't common enough. Heeling for men would need a figurehead with some major clout. Even David Beckham didn't manage to make it acceptable for men to wear a sarong, and heels for men will take at least as much exposure to become widespread.

"Be yourself - everyone else is taken"

From Oscar Wilde

" I have to be me, nobody else will" forgot where I heard this one though.

Would be nice if you could post some sample pics (without links first) so we can get an idea of what you offer. Then if interested people can find out more by private messaging.

Are you getting many orders, it would be interesting for us here to know how much demand there is for mens heels.

Don't let it die, keep posting. There is much to discuss about wearing heels as a guy in male attire.

That's helpful if you have female friends and relatives who know and can help you get the right look. How did your sister find out, or what prompted you to tell her?

How did you tell the people around you about your heels?

Everyone in movies has makeup on, so that's not a good example. But I do agree that the gender lines are being blurred more and more in a lot of areas. Men are spending more time on their appearance now, I think that the workplace has changed which is expediting this trend. To clarify that, more men are working in office jobs (in the West anyway) instead of manual labour which means they can spend time on their look without it being a waste of time when they get to work and ruin it all. Now they can have a manicure (which seems to be getting more popular I notice) and it won't get messed up digging coal, or laying bricks.

Will makeup follow this trend pattern, or are men not vain enough yet?

Back to the topic, I think heeled Oxfords are a step in the right direction for men to wear heels, as they are historically mens styles and the addition of the heel doesn't really change that. The rest of the outfit you describe sounds sharp, gloves and a bag would blur the gender of the outfit again, although men did wear gloves a few decades ago....

Having come late to the heels4men party I missed the pics so can't comment. Not sure about makeup on men though it was big in the 80's, and made a bit of a comeback sometime more recently.

That's a shame, this could be a better site for getting men in heels together than one where there's a lot of cd / TV talk. I do enjoy reading the posts about skirts, makeup and hosiery, but I am not into anything other than wearing heels (and some other womens flat shoes but this is heels4men) I'll also agree sometimes a skirt can work well with heels for some men. I have worn a skirt but it does nothing for me, and just looks wrong on me, I'll point that out before any pictures are brought out showing me in a skirt as there are some around :grin:

Provided Heels4men can stay fairly focused on the heels and not become another CD / TV discussion then it is a very valid site for men who want to wear heels as men and should become more popular.

I vaguely remember the 70's platforms for men, but was too young to be part of it. I do remember the New Romantics of the 80's though and the blurring of the genders clothing wise during that era.

I keep my heel wearing fairly secret, especially from my parents who are very conservative and my brother who wouldn't understand at all. Even so some members of my extended family know about my thing for heels. I have a cousin who knows, she is a shoe-a-holic and I would talk to her about the shoes and boots she wore which I admired, and eventually confessed to her.

So who in your extended family knows?

It's always tough when you have a secret you're keeping from someone close. To try to broach the subject with my wife in the early days (before we got married) I used all kinds of ploys, without straight out telling her.

I would try her shoes on as "a joke", as we're similar size foot. I would comment on heels I saw while we were out shopping, and many other little hints. None of them got the message through and in the end it was just up to me to spell it out, I like heels, I'd like to wear them.

She still isn't completely comfortable with it, although she has given me two pairs of shoes with lowish heels which she bought and doesn't like (women and their changing minds a?) and has taken pics for me of me in my heels.

As for public heeling, she is against it except for one pair of the heels she gave me which are the ones in the linked image below. Not high but not normal mens height so it's a compromise.

The advice I would give is be honest with your wife or girlfriend, don't push too hard to get what you want, each time I try to force things along it goes backwards, but if I plant a seed and let it grow in her mind and we get further forward towards what I want to do. Take it slow make small changes towards your heel wearing goals and allow your S/O time to adjust before going the next small step.

I think the oldest one has an idea about it, but it's not in the open so no discussion. The middle one has commented on it when I wore the shoes my wife gave me as she no longer wore them and they have a 2" wedge kind of heel.

The youngest spotted my heels under the bed, and assumed they were mummy's old "clip clops" that she didn't wear any more, my wife just agreed that they were.

They look very nice, I like the rounded toe on them keeps them on the masculine side and the heel isn't too thin, or too blocky. A nice looking pair of boots Elegant.

Maybe the parenting "Taboo" is what drives the guys to investigate further or experiment more?

If your told "Dont whatever happens push the red button", how long will it be before your just dying to push the red button?

I think that's a good analogy, the more we're told no, the more inviting something becomes. It was the whole "heels are taboo for men" thing which made it more exciting for me to begin with.

As for kids, my daughter at 13 would only wear "boys" clothes but a year on she is very girly. We never stopped her from wearing the clothes, she decided herself to wear more feminine things.

Can't comment on boys wearing heels though as I have 3 daughters.