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Thanks for watching. I might not have bothered either, but 'a friend' had seen the shows preview and suggested I watch, and I'm pleased I did. I had purposely omitted the sexuality of the 'first date' couple that involved a man wearing heels, because I (and I do mean me - I'm not speaking for everyone) didn't feel it was pertinent except for an one particular issue that I will discuss further. (In my soapbox moment.) What got my goat, so to speak, was the initial response to the fella who said he liked to wear high heels. As a comparison, a girl turning up in 6 inch heels and a rubber dress, no problem. (Does 100% fetish outfit get any more less likely on a first date?) A man says "I wear a heel" and Armageddon has been declared. So, onto my soapbox .... Being gay in the UK, is an acceptable status to many of us here in the UK, but equally to some, it is not. In fact I would question "acceptability" has even reached 50% of the populace. Further, it isn't 'normal' or 'average' in any sense. It's still unusual. In some places in the world, being gay gets you killed, and I don't just mean the Middle East. Being gay puts you in a minority, and often, in a repressed or suppressive environment. With all these unpleasant things in mind, you would think a gay man would be capable of showing some empathy towards someone (gay or otherwise) who had left their home country because they felt persecuted? No. Without a seconds thought, 'Dilbert' says "That's weird." And when he sees the hurt in his date's eyes, he recants and says "No, I mean unusual." Then swiftly follows it up with "I could never walk down the street with a man wearing heels." Could he be more of a bigot? No wonder he's single.... Hence the heel wearer saying 'Time to get the bill.' Any further discussion would have been a waste. We weren't privy to the whole feedback, but she did say he was no different to the 20+ year olds who had asked her out, in that their main interest was sex and she had hoped it would be different with a more 'mature' man. While quite a shallow attitude on my part, she was an 8, him barely a 6. He was punching well above his weight getting a date with a looker like her. (And he turned up late!) If they had gone out on a second date, people would have wondered what she saw in such a man? Perhaps (mistakenly) thinking he had a great sense of humour, and told a good joke. I found him a bore, and very rough around the edges. He treated the date like a job interview. What he missed was her limited ability to flirt. Her repeatedly touching her glasses, was her signal she was having a good-ish time. Frankly, with her intellect confronting a 'farmer', I'm surprised they got to dessert. He another one; "That's awkward" when she left to shed a tear. They'd eaten a meal together, and he had NO IDEA how she felt. No wonder his wife had kicked him into touch. As for the "I'm good", it's on a par with "Have a great day" ... Banal and usually BS. I don't know (nor have known) anyone who could put their hand on their heart and say "I'm truly happy." It's human nature surely, to enjoy being unhappy?