As I've said many times, I'm no martyr, (to the cause) and I would never intentionally embarrass my wife or anyone she and I know either.
But I'm not overly concerned about raising eyebrows from 'the public'. I don't have any agenda, and I don't expect people to be disrespectful or rude, just because I've slightly non-conformist tastes in clothing. "Don't like it? Well carry on and mind your own, just as you would if I were wearing a man's shoe."