Elegant

It's really easy, you don't have to be a computer genius to do it. Just try.

BTW. I uploaded my pic, and it wasn't there - it seems that it must be approved of by moderators before it goes public. Am I correct?

No enclosures here, so use either our gallery, or an external server [like Photobucket, Imageshack etc.]. If you want to add a picture to our gallery, choose "High Heels Gallery" on the very top of the page. Then, choose Pictures, go to the Members' Gallery section and click "Submit image to this section" to the right. IMPORTANT: the extension must be in lowercase, else the script won't allow you to upload an image [so you've got to have image.jpg instead of image.JPG, etc.].

Your wife may have become tired wearing heels, or just needs something different, so back off a bit and let her decide. Anyone should wear heels [or anything else, BTW] because they want to do it, not because someone else tells / convinces / presses them to.

Yeah, cutting the talk that way is [probably] the best solution possible. It's all about being confident and not behaving as if you were guilty and trying to explain yourself.

Oh, I didn't know that you have a website. That's nice, although I wouldn't name it "fetish for high heels" unless it were focused on the erotic aspects of heels.

Once, I bought a pair of disco shoes in a thrift store. They were heavy, brown, ugly and I never went out in them, but one thing is important: they were the first heels I've ever had.

Exactly.

Yeah, think about some rock stars or Johnny Depp in Tim Burton's movies [almost all of which I adore] and "Pirates of the Carribean". Of course there will be some time before the make-up for men becomes something common, but it'll eventually do. Wearing earrings / body piercing is mainstream now, although it was quite underground a few years ago...

Right. I used to wear them with leather pants and a dress cotton shirt, leather blazer and coat [when cold]. I'm an androgyne into gothic lifestyle and it's quite an ordinary outfit, in my terms :grin:. To parties, concerts etc. I also apply black nail polish and some make-up [eyeliner, mascara, lipstick].

Yeah. The more of us, the better. I wish Kneehighs came here too...

In first days of May I'll have a photographic course with some fellow goths, and I think I'll also pose as a model. This means that I'll have the opportunity to experiment with make-up and other things [heels, corset etc.]. Hopefully, I'll post some pics.

These were only some photos I found on the net and posted an URL to let you all know what the shoes looked like. I had no digital camera at that time. Too bad I don't remember how the shoes exactly looked like...

What does "binary" about this context? One's femaleness or maleness has nothing to do with what clothing you wear.

From "our" point of view- right, I agree. From society's one- unfortunately, still not. There's a double standard that allows men to wear only certain items and allows only women to wear certain items [note the position of "only"]. A good thing to subvert, and that's what I wrote about. What I'm interested in is not trying to pass as female [many people do, but it's not my thing], but blurring the gender boundaries so much that I could be perceived as male or female with an equal chance. I also object to any gender differences that have nothing to do with actual anatomical/ physiological differences between males and females.

This is my first post since... well, I don't remember. Anyway, it's been so long that it's me who would seem to be dead. Glad to see the forum going.

I won them at online auctions. It's quite hard to get my size, but somebody sells some nice footwear from time to time...

I like your style. You are more flamboyant than me... and you do look very classy in your heels.

Although my avatar is not a pic of me, I love it- the outfit is in my style, but I'd prefer oxfords.

Right. Some people are breaking out from excessive conformity earlier, others later.

It's great to read about a guy whose wife has to "push him out" instead of being reluctant and "dragging him back to the closet". More power to you and her!

I know that some people visit H4M, but it's still a dead place. And, what is worse, people think that they must reply in someone else's thread, instead of starting a new one. Why don't we give our forum a spark of life? Come on, I think that a lot of active street-heelers [and closeted ones, too!] can share experiences, outfit ideas and so on!

hi im Heels me. can any one help me. I want the heels the model has on in the gallary picture.

Which pic do you mean? The Jean Paul Gaultier's navy- blue pants and vest? I love the look...

Im 40 in november and im having a black tie party so need some good heels to go with my tucks pls get back if you know anything.

It's great that you want to stand out! I imagine that you'll have a lot of confidence since you already decided that you want to wear heels for a formal occasion, and I'm really positive about your choice. What's your shoe size? You shouldn't have any difficulty buying heels if you're up to EU41/ UK7. If you're thin and quite androgynous in appearance, it helps too. Personally, I prefer oxfords, because they're both "masculine" and "feminine", but I could do pumps or boots as well.

Also it would be good to chat and have a few m8s who also were heels im the only one in my group. So get back if u can and still get back if u carnt. Its so good to find a place that does this sort of thing as puting heels on comes second nature now but i have female shoes and i so wish for mens heels just wish the world around us would cach up a bit quicker.lol. All the best for now. Heels me. xx

Don't worry, you can count on me! I'm also very keen on leather fashion- my avatar is a photo from J. C. Jitrois campaign, the heels appear a bit too feminine for my taste, but the outfit is outstanding in my opinion.

Nice to hear that. The oxfords were worn a couple of times, incl. today. I can walk in them finely.

8.5cm [3 1/2"] ankle boots:

7.5cm [3"] oxfords:

Finally I bought myself a digital camera, so I took some pictures (sorry about the mirror/ self-trigger thing :-D):

www.elegant.fotosik.pl

I hope you'll like them!

Whoa, whoa, WHOA!

I have to get a shovel and dig a bit because my jaw ended up half a meter in the ground. That's an impressive pair of oxfords and I'm getting envious about them!